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  1. Lawrence Josephs, Why Authenticity Is the Best Dating Strategy, Psychology Today, 2019.<\/a><\/li>\n
  2. Josephs, L., Warach, B., Goldin, K., Jonason, P., Gorman, B., Kapoor, S., & Lebron, N.  (2019) Be Yourself: Authenticity as a Long-term Mating Strategy. Personality and Individual Differences. 143: 118-127.<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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